Ok, you're pregnant, or have a young child. And maybe you're the first --or last!--among your friends to have a baby. If, so you're not alone. It's extremely common never to have experienced life with baby close up...before one pops into your own life. Once you have a baby it can feel like you've landed on a different planet-- one that your childless friends just can't relate to. That can be very isolating, as your other childless friends and family may not get what it's like for you. And even seasoned parents forget what it's like during the zombie first months with a baby. (We block it out!)
So, bam...here you are. Baby? Check! Friends? Not so much. In a city teeming with parents pushing strollers, it's strangely easy to feel isolated. But stopping a random mom and asking "Can you be my mommy friend? Please!?" isn't necessary. Finding your parenting tribe is easier than you think. In New York City and especially in Brooklyn, each neighborhood has a parenting listserv where parents right in your area post questions, sell baby stuff, list baby classes and set up play dates. These listservs are super resources and are a great place to start to get connected to the parenting world. Below is a link to a list of most of the local NYC listservs, but if you don't see your neighborhood represented, go to groups.yahoo.com and search out your own neighborhood to see if there is a group nearby. Chances are good that you'll find one.